the reason i didn't quit the internet
today i wanted to quit the internet. every time i sign on it seems like people are yelling and trying their best to tell me what to think or believe. none of it is positive. it's all in the name of being right and making a point. it's report after report of violent death, mass murder and a constant reminder that we live in a broken world. we absolutely do. and i'm not trying to ignore it, but I think there's a much healthier and more gracious way to live in that brokenness. somehow sitting behind a screen gives you the right to say whatever the hell you want without regard to others' feelings or humanity. you and the people around you are reduced to a machine and all code of conduct goes out the window.
so for a moment i wanted to shut it down completely. never take part in it again and ignore the ignorant hurtful content that drowns my feeds. but then i remembered that silence doesn't fix things. it's surrendering to the injustice instead of fighting against it. i remembered this space that ashley and i have created. what began as a creative experiment has evolved into a tiny corner of the web that exists to encourage you in a life of community. a life built with and around people. not just the pretty events that you post on social media, but the every day life that often goes unseen.
to offer you a reprieve from the pain and burdens of life -- the inevitable ones we all face. it's not a sugar coating of the bad days, but an exhortation to reach out to those near you when you are hurting. to be vulnerable, honest and genuine about your struggles, your needs and your situation so that they may surround you with love and hot meals and listening ears. to create an environment in which other people, in turn, approach you with their own burdens. a place where it's safe to talk about the hurt and the pain in our personal lives and in this world. the fears that we have as parents, the seasons of financial struggle, the practical ways in which we can be a positive part of social justice and change (all the while changing diapers and cleaning up spit).
most of our best memories include food. our favorite conversations take place at the table. lingering after a second helping. food brings people together. it is a common ground, an even playing field. it is here that real conversations take place. that true understanding of one another can happen. food meets so many needs. it slows us down. the planning, preparing and consuming of it take us out of the daily grind, out of the content-content-content screaming at you and it grounds you. we say grace before our meals because we never want to take for granted the food that sits in front of us. because we know we have been given much. and so we want to extend that table and encourage you to do the same.
this is why we chose food. this is why we share recipes and talk about having people in your home (spotless or a wreck). because the presence of one another is what will keep us afloat. what will carry us in the broken world and what will keep us sane. let's get off the internet more often. remember what it's like to interact with real human beings on a personal level. and since we are each given a platform, a voice, may it be positive and uplifting.