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18 HART | Bitches Get Things Done?

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I recently saw a quote that said "bitches get things done". While this is often true I don't believe it has to be absolute. At some point bitchiness has to catch up with you. Also, Wiki defines "Bitch" as a female dog, wolf, fox or otter.... OR express displeasure or grumble. I don't know about you but I would rather be an intelligent, kind hearted woman. 

The other end of the spectrum seems to be to get used and abused in business. There is a fine line when it comes to being nice and not getting walked all over. We both struggle with it whether it comes in the form of under charging or doing free work when we really don't have the time. 

 Having worked many jobs (private sector and corporate) in the past I have watched bosses do things well and others do things poorly. Some talked about everyone behind their back to make sure they stayed on top or were just so mean you felt nervous telling them you had to leave for the night. However, I saw others be kind human beings and still command power. The trick is figuring out how to be confident and happy while also being bold and knowing our value.  

Let's be people that are confident and love what they do without being so commanding that we have people talking behind our backs, k?

Here are a few tips that I am working on incorporating into my work life:

1. Do not be apologetic (unless you screwed up, then be humble and confess). We both tend to say sorry for things that are not our fault out of empathy. Empathy is good, but unnecessary to always express it in business.  

2. Be direct, if people know what is expected then conflict will be easier to manage. This starts with your initial meetings. Be honest and don't cave on your standard.

3. CONTRACTS! Point #2 brings us to contracts (freelancers listen up). If you have all of your terms of the relationship and timeline clearly listed and signed off on you have something to point you client back to. It takes the emotion out of it. **Something that may be important to add to your contract is a section of "what ifs". E.g. If the client bails half way through, what payment do you still receive? If the client starts requesting far more than you agreed on there should be a note stating you will form an addendum or note overtime payment of some sort. **

4. Let your "No" be no and your "Yes" be yes. It's hard to say no, especially when it's something you want to do. However, we all have 24hr/day and sometimes that isn't enough. If you have other things in your life you need to tend to, aka family, friends, volunteering, vacation, cleaning your house, then it is okay to say "no" sometimes. Know your limits and your time constraints, sometimes that last "yes" can be what results in a melt down and a sad, moody friend and family member. 

5. Know and believe in your value as a person and as a business owner. Your time is valuable as is your mind. Make sure you are charging an accurate amount for the work you are able to produce. This often takes the frustration away and allows you freedom to enjoy the crazy pile of projects in front of you. 

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